Women often operate on a “tribal endorsement” system. If a man says something that resonates with one of them, that man gets elevated in her mind—and sometimes in the minds of her peers—as an “authority” on men in general. That’s the halo effect.
But here’s the flaw: men are not a monolith. One man’s opinion doesn’t become a binding decree for the rest of us. Just because he said, “This is how men think,” doesn’t mean the rest of us signed off on it.
Now flip it. When a man says something they don’t like—especially on relationships or female behavior—they often default to a sexual disqualification tactic: “You don’t get women.” Translation: “I personally wouldn’t sleep with you, so your opinion is invalid.” That’s monolithic thinking in action—using one woman’s lack of attraction as a universal judgment.
It’s like if a man heard a woman say something he didn’t agree with and replied, “Well, Brad Pitt wouldn’t date you, so you must be wrong.” It’s petty, irrelevant, and rooted in groupthink.
Men think in individuals, women often think in collectives. That’s the mismatch.